About two years ago, I was an angry person. I was in a hard situation and had a problem with my job, family, and friends. I couldn’t decide and plan what to do. I was confused. I didn’t allow anyone to help me. With any single word, I became angry and shouted at them.
One day, one of my friends said, “We cannot contact you. Because we’re really scared of you. We don’t know when the best time is to speak to you. You’re all time aggressive and lose your temper.”
He was right. I was scared and tired of myself too. I made all of my relatives sad. I had a terrible feeling. Now that I’m thinking, I never want to come back to those times again.
But… Now I’m very better. I’m an angry person consistently but I can control it now.
I know there are a lot of people like me. So, I decided to share the most useful solutions of my own.
7 tips to control our anger
1. Think before you speak
When you’re angry, you cannot think properly. So, you do and say what is on your mind and it’s easy to say something you’ll later regret. I never forget those faces and I took it out of them. I could hear their broken hearts sounds.
So, it’s better not to speak when you’re angry. Give yourselves time to calm down and then speak to each other.
2. Get some exercise
Physical activity can help reduce the stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a walk, ride your bike, or hit a few golf balls.
3. Take a timeout
Timeouts aren’t just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. At work, I always have some peak moments in which I’m under a lot of pressure. I try to go out and walk for a short time before and after that time.
4. Don’t hold a grudge
Forgiveness is a powerful tool that can help both parties learn from the situation and strengthen their relationship. I was taught to forgive anyone and give them one more chance.
5. Practice relaxation skills
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as “Take it easy”, “Relax”, and “You’ll be OK” are all good examples.
You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
I often listen to calm music with headphones and just repeat “Relax” and “Everything is gonna be ok.”
6. Count down
When I become angry, the first things I do are count down (or up) to 10 or more and take deep breaths. After that, I drink cold water. They really help me. Try them for sure.
7. Write in your journal
What you can’t say, perhaps you can write. Jot down what you’re feeling and how you want to respond. Processing it through the written word can help you calm down and reassess the events leading up to your feelings.
To conclude, anger is a normal emotion that everyone experiences to different degrees. But when it manifests as violence or outbursts, it is critical to find healthy outlets for it. Try these tips and speak with a mental health specialist or therapist to help find underlying causes of anger and other emotional issues.